thedailymika

False. Spanking leads to immediate obedience. Blame the stupidity and actual ABUSE (not behavior-corrective spanks) for the reason girls think violence and anger are normal components of relationships.

Don’t get me started on spanking. There IS a difference between spanking and beating the shit out of your child. Spanking: immediate obedience, no long-term effects. Beating your child: immediate obedience, detrimental effects.

annacannabis

I just really like how it says ‘Spanking leads to immediate obedience’ because it does. If you tell me to do something during sex and I don’t do it, spank my ass a couple times and I’ll definitely re-think my choice of not obeying.

thedailymika

HAHAHA, yeah I guess it could be used in the context too :]

jonathan-cunningham

I consider myself very pro-feminist, but that’s really hard to square with how hot I find spanking in bed.

natelyswhore

I don’t think you should worry about thinking spanking is sexy.  There are lots of women out there who are into giving and getting spankings. 

Corporal punishment is actually not a good idea in parenting, though, and I’m sort of freaked out by annacannabis and jonathan-cunningham bringing up sexy spanking in a discussion of how great it is to hit your kids.  That’s what it is - hitting, no matter where you do it.  Reliable studies have shown a relationship between childhood spanking and adolescent and adult aggression and coercion.  Most U.S. parents don’t do it, because there are a lot of ways to punish kids that don’t involve inflicting physical pain, and using those alternatives reinforces healthy family relationships rather than creating fear-based short-term obedience. 

I enjoy erotic spanking — possibly because I was not physically disciplined, so it doesn’t have frightening personal connotations for me.

I was only ever hit by my parents on two occasions. One was reflexive — I was nursing and I bit my mother’s nipple. Another was justly deserved — at age four, I crossed the street immediately after being told not to.

I’m not sure if my parents were really good parents, or if I was just a very obedient child.

I do not believe in physically disciplining children. It does NOT lead to immediate obedience. It leads to long lasting psychological issues and immediate DISTRUST and FEAR of one’s parents. 

Furthermore, at what point does a spanking become abuse? I think that it is at the top of a very slippery slope. A parent who is comfortable administering corporal punishment find it easier to justify administering SEVERE corporal punishment.

Both of my parent’s were physically disciplined — directly leading to their decision NOT to physically discipline me. My dad rarely talks about it, but I do know that his father used to hit him and his brothers with the metal end of a belt.

My mother’s family is Southern, and there seems to be an easier acceptance and… humor towards physical discipline in the South. My mom and my uncle frequently reminisce, while laughing, about my grandmother’s and great-grandmother’s attempts to discipline them. 

“Do you remember the time Mammaw chased me around the house trying to whip me with an electric cord? I ran too fast for her!”

“You had to pick your own switch. And if it wasn’t a good switch, she’d hit you with it ‘til it broke and then make you go pick a GOOD one!”

They feel that this is just what you did at that time, it was an acceptable form of parenting. But not anymore — time’s have changed, we’ve learned.

While my mom and uncle find their physical discipline to be an amusing memory, both of my aunts view it as serious physical abuse.

I still haven’t figured out what lead to these differing views.

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