So, in psych of the offender, we were watching “Paradise Lost,” the documentary about the West Memphis Three, and it was just making me so angry. All this hate directed at these kids because they were different. All this hate from people that claimed to be Christians. I get so fucking tired of Christians telling me not to judge all Christians by the extreme ones, like they get so upset when I express my anger about Christianity and totally fail to get YES IT FEELS SHITTY WHEN PEOPLE LEAP TO ASSUMPTIONS AND JUDGE YOU GOSH I WONDER HOW THAT FEELS FOR OTHER PEOPLE.
And then I get into my psychology of human sexuality class which is the most bullshit class that I’m taking at the moment and low and behold we are watching a documentary about “The Science of the Sexes.” And it’s all about how hormones control your life and men and women ARE ABSOLUTELY COMPLETELY DIFFERENT FROM ONE ANOTHER ALL THE TIME NO MATTER WHAT.
That whole class has just been a swamp of binarism and cisexism. Whenever someone ask something like “Well, this study was done with heterosexual couples, would it have had different results with homosexual couples?” and the professor is like “Well, there isn’t much research on homosexual couples so I don’t know so we won’t even attempt to discuss it straight people straight people men and women men and women blah blah blah.”
I just want to SCREAM.
So I’m getting pissy and angry as we watch this documentary. The only time there was any statement that hormones AREN’T the end-all be-all of human behavior was when they were debunking testosterone as the source of aggression — saying that while hormones may influence behavior, they cannot be the only explanation for complex behaviors.
AND THEN
one of the people in the documentary literally said “Men and women are different. You can’t make a boy into a girl, or a girl into a boy. It’s been tried and it doesn’t work.”
AND THEN
we had to do a group project in which we split up into groups based on gender and came up with questions to ask the “opposite” gender.
Most of the questions were shit stupid.
One of the questions from the guys was “How big is too big?”
Pretty much all the women said that a penis was too big when it hurt, or when you couldn’t move effectively, or when men just relied on size and not on skill.
The guy that asked the question accused the women in the class of dodging the question. Apparently he wanted a numerical answer.
Ok, first off, it’s different for everyone. Some people can take a lot, some people can’t. Some people enjoy taking a lot, some people don’t.
Secondly, NOT MANY PEOPLE MEASURE THEIR PARTNER’S DICK BEFORE THEY PUT IT IN.
My question was the last one before class ended and I asked “Why do men feel that it’s appropriate to continue pursuing a woman after she has repeatedly said no?”
Apparently, I said it in an aggressive manner? Whatever, I’m loud, I can project and if that sounds angry, I don’t care. People laughed and someone said “Ooh, she mad.”
One guy said that they kept going because a girl wouldn’t like it if you gave up easy, if you were a push over. Another guy said “We men just want we can’t have.” I shot back, “That’ll get you a felony charge.” One woman said that she liked playing hard to get, that she liked being pursued.
And then one guy said, “Well, even if a girl says no, you can always talk to her. You can just keep talkin’ and she’ll change her mind. Talk her into it.”
I shouted “So coercion is okay?!”
The professor was telling me to calm down and let the guy talk and then class was over and we left.
I was so angry I was shaking.
How can people not understand the difference between playing hard to get and straight up saying no? How can people think that repeatedly bothering someone after they have been turned down is okay? How the fuck am I supposed to believe that someone will listen to ‘no’ during sex if they wouldn’t listen to ‘no’ in a bar?
I don’t care if people thought I was overreacting, I don’t care if people think I’m a bitch or a feminazi or whatever FUCK YOU I AM RIGHT.
And then it was Spring Break and I slept in til noon.
YEEEEEY!
